After a drunken night of passion, leaving the next morning can be difficult or easy, depending on the person. After collecting your things and getting dressed, will you hold your head up high or will you avert your eyes as you make your way back home?
Usually, the walk of shame is associated with women, who risk looking promiscuous if seen leaving a man’s house early in the morning in last night’s clothes. It’s unfortunate, but it’s true. When we see it, we shake our heads and say: “Mmm, mmm, mmm…I know what she’s been doing.”
Now, according to the Urban Dictionary, when a guy is seen leaving a woman’s house, it’s not called the walk of shame, but the stride of pride. For men, their actions from the previous night earn them respect from their friends. There is no shame in what they did, and they will probably brag about it.
Have we come across another double standard? Yes, but let’s consider this: While it’s true that a woman’s reputation takes a hit when she’s seen doing the walk, the walk isn’t exclusive to women, just as the stride isn’t exclusive to men.
Under certain circumstances, some men experience the walk, too. For example, if the woman they’ve spent the night with is unattractive, then there are no bragging rights to be had, and they’d rather not be seen leaving her house. Or if the woman is off-limits for whatever reason (she’s married, he’s married, she’s his best friend’s girl, etc.), then being seen could be very risky.
On the other hand, some women can also experience the stride of pride. If the man they’ve been with is very attractive, or perhaps has some type of celebrity status, then yes: women will see it as an accomplishment and will strut their stuff. Or if the night was really amazing, some women will just leave, hair disheveled and make-up ruined, too happy and relaxed to care who sees them.
The majority of the time, though, women continue being victims of the walk of shame. Why is there even a walk? It’s 2012, and women should be able to have a one night stand (using protection, of course) without worrying about the consequences of the following morning. It’s all a matter of choice and attitude. If you walk out proudly in the morning, then you’re choosing not to feel ashamed of what you’ve done. If you creep nervously like you’re afraid to be seen, that’s also your choice.
Ladies, let’s do away with the walk of shame. We have sex, and we enjoy it. People need to get over it. Let’s hold our heads up high, and turn all those walks into strides.