“I have a really long history of choosing the wrong men.”
This was once the essence of my romantic life, which I chronicle in my book, Love Trips: A Collection of Relationship Stumbles. It always begins with a choice. In my case, along with that of many men and women, I chose those who were unavailable, unlovable, or just simply too cool for school. The men I attracted had it and they knew it. I, of course, was all over it.
This is who I was and where I was in my 20s. Back then, I blamed everyone else for my relationship woes. And I’ve experienced it all. A man disappearing without explanation? Yup, it’s happened to me. A woman calling me in the middle of the night? That too has occurred. Being the almost other woman? Guilty of that as well. After a point, I realized I kept repeating patterns. I blamed my state of mind and my abandonment issues. I blamed Bacardi for making me lose control (drunk dialing was my thang!). Then I hit 30. I educated myself on the “law of attraction,” grew up, became self-aware and reflective, and began taking responsibility for my actions and decisions.
Now, I use my relationship stumbles, life experiences, and background in psychology to help others. I have provided relationship and dating advice to couples and singles alike for various outlets, including Latina Magazine, Mamiverse, GalTime, JDate, and Your Tango, among others. Now, I will provide the same service for Being Latino.
So, ask me any relationship questions. I will do my best to help those who seek my advice in all matters of the heart. I won’t judge. Making mistakes is part of the journey to healthy, palpable love. The stumbles teach us about who we are, what we need in a relationship, and what we refuse to accept. All our failed relationships teach us the importance of being selective of whom we allow to love us. And I am here to help you choose right.
To Ask Sujeiry, please email her at firstname.lastname@example.org. Questions will be answered every Tuesday!