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“I have a really long history of choosing the wrong men.”

This was once the essence of my romantic life, which I chronicle in my book, Love Trips: A Collection of Relationship Stumbles. It always begins with a choice. In my case, along with that of many men and women, I chose those who were unavailable, unlovable, or just simply too cool for school. The men I attracted had it and they knew it. I, of course, was all over it.

This is who I was and where I was in my 20s. Back then, I blamed everyone else for my relationship woes. And I’ve experienced it all. A man disappearing without explanation? Yup, it’s happened to me. A woman calling me in the middle of the night? That too has occurred. Being the almost other woman? Guilty of that as well. After a point, I realized I kept repeating patterns. I blamed my state of mind and my abandonment issues. I blamed Bacardi for making me lose control (drunk dialing was my thang!). Then I hit 30. I educated myself on the “law of attraction,” grew up, became self-aware and reflective, and began taking responsibility for my actions and decisions.

Now, I use my relationship stumbles, life experiences, and background in psychology to help others.  I have provided relationship and dating advice to couples and singles alike for various outlets, including Latina Magazine, Mamiverse, GalTime, JDate, and Your Tango, among others. Now, I will provide the same service for Being Latino.

So, ask me any relationship questions. I will do my best to help those who seek my advice in all matters of the heart. I won’t judge. Making mistakes is part of the journey to healthy, palpable love. The stumbles teach us about who we are, what we need in a relationship, and what we refuse to accept. All our failed relationships teach us the importance of being selective of whom we allow to love us. And I am here to help you choose right.

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About Adriana Villavicencio

Dr. Adriana Villavicencio is the youngest child of Ecuadorian immigrants. She has moved 29 times in her life, taking her on a journey from California to Bangalore, India, and New York City, where she recently earned a Ph.D. in Education Leadership and works as a Research Associate at New York University. An avid traveler, Adriana has collected experiences in four different continents and 16 different countries. But as a former high school English teacher, some of her fondest memories are those of her brilliant and brilliantly funny students in Brooklyn and Oakland. Adriana has contributed to several publications including the Daily News and, and is a managing editor for the Journal of Equity in Education. She earned a B.A. in English and an M.A. in English Education at Columbia University, and currently serves on the board of Columbia’s Latino Alumni Association (LAACU). She enjoys scary movies with red vines, Sauvignon Blanc, and her Maltese dog, Napoleon.

To learn more about Adriana’s education consulting company, please visit

Disclaimer: The views and opinions expressed in this article are solely those of the author and should not be understood to be shared by Being Latino, Inc.


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