Your body is a wonderland and it deserves to be explored, from a woman’s innermost crevice, to a man’s tallest peak. With so many adventures waiting to be explored, why would anyone ever want to deny this bodily right?
Well-being (physical and emotional), enhanced sex, improved sleep, and lower stress levels are just some of the perks. Mostly everyone does it, yet it is taboo. Time to pull out those vibrators, socks, lube, and even your hand because May is National Masturbation Month!
However, not everyone may be celebrating it. Youngsters, who are raised being told that it is a sin, often struggle with whether or not they should explore this side of their sexuality as an adult. Ignorance and religion play a huge role in demonizing masturbation.
Stigma aside, it should be viewed as a safer and healthier form of sex. The stigmatization often leads people to feelings of guilt, shame and fear. Women who masturbate are often looked down upon more when compared to their male counterparts for partaking in the natural act, even though men and women alike have high masturbation rates: five out of ten adult women and seven out of ten men masturbate to be exact. And the myth about losers being the only people who “choke the snake” or “pet the kitty” is a total lie. Not only do people who masturbate have higher self-esteems, they are also more aware of what feels good to their bodies, and thus makes them better lovers.
Even good lovers need to be aware of the miniscule risk involved with touching oneself. In order for masturbation to pose no chance for STD transfer, make sure that no bodily fluids are exchanged with another person and avoid skin-to-skin contact. Also, if you begin to notice that masturbation begins to interfere with daily life, then it is important to consider whether or not there are underlying issues causing one to turn to masturbation. Follow the aforementioned warnings and safely enjoy your journey in self-love.
Masturbators, take comfort in knowing that you are not the only person touching yourself. The more we know about our own bodies, the better we can teach our partners how to love us and build healthier sexual relationships. In the famous words of RuPaul, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?”
Ces’Ari (pronounced Chez-ah-ree) earned a B.A. in Political Science from the University of California, Irvine, and a M.Ed. from Arizona State University, while simultaneously balancing writing and marriage. Read more about Ces’Ari on her personal blog.