We live in a heteronormative society. Most people assume and/or expect others to be straight, especially in our Latino Culture. Heterosexuals, as the majority of the population, have been calling the shots for a long time, taking for granted rights that the gay community is just starting to get.
Coming from that minority mindset, there has been much talk about the struggles of gay people as individuals and as community. However, being gay (and by gay I mean everyone who’s not straight) does not necessarily mean that you must live a life of despair, necessity, and equality raids. There are advantages to dating someone your own gender that may not be obvious, but are worth pointing out for heterosexuals to give it a thought and young gay people to keep in mind that it gets better.
Let’s start with the obvious: Gay couples cannot have babies – not in the usual way at least. Although that is one of the arguments conservatives use to deny us of our rights, it represents an advantage considering all the things hetero couples have to do to not have babies. Gay couples save all the money and work invested by other couples in preventing pregnancies. By the time they start raising children or forming a family, they have given it enough thought and made sure they’re ready. There are no surprises, no unwanted or “accidental” children in gay families.
Then there are the financial implications of same sex partnership. I know you want me to say that gay couples make more money, but not really. That is a myth. In today’s economy straight and gay suffer equally. However, some studies show that the misconception of gay people as wealthy comes from differences in career choices and spending patterns. For example, lesbians tend to push their careers further because they understand they may be responsible for taking care of their partner financially, a stressor that heterosexual women don’t have. Also, gay people tend to form families later in life which accounts for a lot of “single time” money spent on personal treats like vacations, event tickets and, of course, fabulous clothing.
Another basic advantage is the gender role flexibility of same sex couples. All the rules written in books and constitutions are made for male-female unions and, accept it or not, most people subscribe to them. From simple things like who pays for dinner on a date to more complex ones like who stays home to raise children, same sex couples have more autonomy in making decisions free of the stereotypical rules of marriage.
Last but not least there are the things we let slide which may come in handy at times. For instance, gay couples use the same restroom; this also means make the same line. Sometimes they can lend each other clothes (provided they fit). Couples of the same gender can communicate better and bond over experiences that two people from opposite sex will not understand about each other.
See? It does get better.
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Dear Christian Ariel Espaillat,
Give it a damn rest.
1 Corinthians 6:9
Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men
REPENT & RECEIVE TRUE SALVATION IN JESUS CHRIST WHO LOVES YOU!!!
1 CORINTIOS 6:9
¿No sabéis que los injustos no heredarán el reino de Dios? No erréis; ni los fornicarios, ni los idólatras, ni los adúlteros, ni los afeminados, ni los que se echan con varones,
ARREPIENTESEN Y RECIBA LA VERDADERA SALVACIÓN EN JESUCRISTO QUIEN TE AMA!!!
Nor the judgmental zealots^
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ this person is clearly stupid. There was only like what 2 or 3 things in the bible on homosexuality yet thousands of verses on love. As a Catholic, I grew up with the basis that Jesus loves EVERYONE and to love EVERYONE.
http://iamkarijerene.tumblr.com/post/19163431618/cheappoet-jesus-did-i-stutter-yes-thank the first pic is for you dumbass
Why can’t people leave their religious beliefs to the side AND STAY HUMAN????
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”
Matthew 7:1-5
I have the New King James Version of the Good Book on a pdf file, and I’ve highlighted all the juicy bits for certain special occasions.
I like this guy ^^^^^
FYI: Matthew is generally the more progressive of the Gospels.
@ Christian. You’re anything but… Drop ur 1st name.
I see here how you all are using the bible for your own point of you on the debate. That shows how little you read and understand the truth in it. While I’m not in favor of homosexuality nor support it, I don’t dislike gay people, they are good friends, I just don’t like their lifestyles.
Christianity — Christ, anyway — promotes the idea of a separation between church and state. “Render therefore to Caesar the things that are Caesar’s, and to God the things that are God’s” (Matthew 22:21). Society and government are only concerned with your earthly well-being; the Bible’s concerned with your spiritual and eternal well-being. Allow people to live their own lives they way they choose, and let everyone secure their own eternal salvation in the hereafter.
It’s not choice, being unsupportive and a religious zealot is a choice. Tell me when did you decide to be heterosexual?
^This is why there are so few well-adjusted gay Latinos. I thank GOD y la Virgencita for my parents’ love, support and courage.
Edwin: I get that, and that’s your right. You don’t have to like their lifestyle; that’s why it’s their lifestyle and not yours. You might not agree with someone’s pursuit of happiness, but you must defend their right to it.
To say that a person doesn’t have the right to love whoever they choose is to say that they are not a person. (a shameless adaptation of Rousseau)
Real Conservatives and Constitutionalists, do not care about your bedroom theatrics; at least I don’t. Couldn’t give a chuleta. Why, because we regard humans as individuals born with human rights. The right to be left alone, to defend yourself, to feed yourself,….you get it. There is no such thing as “gay rights”, only “gay permissions” granted to you by the state. Getting married is one of them. The problem is that gays, and others, want to be recognized by the government. You want your marriages, visitation, adoption…..none of which is a power that the constitution addresses. So there is no “beef” with the Constitution. All that other stuff, should be handled by lawyers and local government.
God is bisexual. We are all made in God’s image. Being upset at the fact that “Gay” people exist is just as dumb as being upset that God created marijuana plants. How I wish anti-homosexual people focus on their sexual inabilities rather than on other people’s sexual preference.
Vicente: Some people are true Christians, and other people are just part of the flock.
I am an atheist, but I’m also — I hope — a true Christian.
“I must defend their right to it” if you statement was true, then they must defend the right to those who choose not to embrace it… Your basis is self defeating, you are close minded just as the ones opposing your claim.
Gay rights activists are not trying to suppress anyone’s right to think however they choose. But there are people who would deny gays and other nonheteronormative people from living their lives the way they choose and in a way that doesn’t affect anyone else. You have a right to hate gay people, but you don’t have a right to deny them their rights.
MIERDA !!!! Who opened up the “Floodgates” of Bigotry and Ignorance ?? Live and Let Live.
What would gay rights take away from you, Edwin? To quote Jefferson, “It neither picks my pocket nor breaks my leg.”
I think the people that start quoting the Bible have it all wrong and in the end they appear foolish. You are not going to change anyone’s mind by reading Bible verses, especially people who already have made up their mind about an issue.I know a lot of great homosexual people as I know a lot that are just lousy. I really don’t care if you are homosexual. What bothers me is the actual over promotion of that life style to a point where it’s everywhere and being shoved down our throats 24/7.. And I don’t like it when if you don’t agree with the said lifestyle you are automatically some Nazi monster that kills kittens in front of orphans. None sense! I know a lot of gay people also that have major prejudices against hetros. I don’t go around celebrating my straightness. Just go ahead and live your lives and don’t hurt anyone or think you are better than others because you belong to a certain group – that’s what’s important. We live in a society where all are equal, and that is good but sometimes some groups are more equal than others. Personally as a man I find it repulsive for two men to have sex because that’s my choice and it doesn’t appeal to me. I don’t think it’s a sin however.